When the real me comes out of the closet

I thought I should do a quick update.

My supervisor for my MSc thesis apparently did not know that I am moving to Mossel Bay end of November. I have to hand in my thesis to be sent to the external examiner on the 15th of Dec. I would have handed in my thesis for review by my Co-Supervisor on the 15th of November, but I am laging behind and thus the date was moved up to the 22nd. She then has 2 weeks to go though it and make suggestions. In that time I will be doing things like writing my abstracts (yes 2 of them, one in afrikaans and one in english), making sure my reference list is proper and, of coarse, MOVING TO MOSSEL BAY. Thing is I wanted to have a “going away party” on the 17th, since MyCub is leaving for home on the 18th-ish and that would be the last time I see him till well he comes and visits me in Mossel Bay over December (yes I got him to agree to come visit me ).

Speaking of MyCub. We have sort of figured out what our relationship is in so called straight terms. It’s a summer fling… kinda. We are more than friends and less than boyfriends. I must say that my timing really sux! He would have been a perfect boyfriend if he was 1-2 year older (no age doesn’t matter, but he is new to the scene and thus don’t want to and shouldn’t at this stage, be restrained by a long term relationship) and if I was still a student next year. Think back to when you were 19, coming out and how everything was new and exciting. One can’t expect someone like that to be stuck in a relationship.

Since I have so little time left with him, I have been trying to tap every moment with him. Though scared that I would scare him off or overwhelm him, I try to check every now and again with him if I am overwhelming him. I believe that the best relationships are built not only on trust but good communication. It’s weird but the thing we talk about mostly actually is music and that is one of the things we don’t have in common, our taste in music.

At the moment with the thesis dragging me under water, he is the only thing keeping me breathing. He is redonkey-ously bad with a phone though. He is an introvert so he can leave his phone in his room for a weekend and never check it. I chat to him 2-3 times a day on BBM. the rest of the time i send him “status updates”, like what I’m doing and thinking. He kinda likes it, I think… but there are those times I really want him to answer and he just doesn’t… like asking him to come and have lunch with me.

Anyway, I have a few things I still have to do with him before I leave Stellenbosch, the one it to get a kiss in Die Laan. It’s a Maties tradition that to be a Matie you have to 1) fail a subject (sleep ‘n vak), 2) an acorn needs to fall on your head (akker moet op jou kop val) and 3) you have to make out with someone in Die Laan (Soen in Die Laan).

Now all i need is #3 so this is a must. The rest I am not going to elaborate on here right now.

In other news. ThePianoMan has suddenly left the country for 3 months to sell tech in Sub-Saharan Africa… It was quite a surprise. I will thus only see him in Feb. I’m really gonna miss him!

Good news gang! I got a interview with a molecular diagnostics supply company for the position of product specialist. The company is based in Cape Town so please hold every finger on Monday that the interview goes well.

I really want a job in Cape Town and this seems like a really awesome one.

Let me get back to work….

Lets start with how I have been. The sort answer can be given in one word. THESIS! I have been writing for months and feel like I haven’t gotten anywhere. It has to be handed to my co-supervisor by about the 11th of Nov, and then corrected sent to the external examiners by end of November.

The whole family will be leaving behind Stellenbosch, and moving back to Mossel Bay. Paternal Unit has contract work will about April, the Maternal Unit has recently heard of a job opening at her previous company, in her old department and TheBitch will need to find a job as a dominee. I will have to do the corrections on my thesis in January and my defence, thus will need to spend some time in Stellenbosch. Hopefully some of my friends here will help me out with a rug to lie my body on. From December I will also be trying to find a job, and hopefully in Cape Town, if possible, in Stellenbosch, though I need to get away from this place. I have been here 8 years.

My thesis is just keeping me really busy, I don’t really have time to even see my friends. And I really miss them! I try to make some time, but it’s really hard.

Ok now on to what you actually want to hear. ThePiano man is awesome. We went on the date and spoke for hours about all sorts of shit. I had a lot of fun. He is very cute, about as tall as I am, same age, and going a bald. I love his build… He has a scruffy look to him and is adorable. We then went to the place he was staying stayed up till like 4am, and I slept over. Had the best cuddles in age! we saw each other again a few times and later had the “where is this going?” talk. He just broke up a few months ago with a guy. They did not have the best of relationships but he did love him and they were together for something like 7 years. So he has a lot to deal with at this stage, and is not ready for a relationship. We are now becoming really good friends.

Well that did not stop me and neither will my thesis. I met this guy at a party, MyCub, but didn’t hook up right away. We started chatting on BBM for a while, at first all friendly and then later it got more… personal. He is 19, though very mature and looks older than he is. I can’t call him cute, but he is. He is this hot cub (but is not at all overweight) with a rugby 8th man build, but a bit smaller and a hairy chest. Longish dark hair and is a bit taller than I am. These perfect supple red lips on a cute skew smile and he is always barefoot. *queery wipes the drool of his face*

Anyway… so last night we went for a drink that turned into dinner that turned into me making out with him under Red light. IT WAS HOT! I think we said 3 times that we need to go and then started kissing again and forgot about time, we were standing in the same spot making out for about 1h30.

After taking him back to his Rez (yea rez…) I went to cool off at Benedetto’s be fore going home. Later when I was already in bed, he asked the ”where is this going?” question. Kudos to him for that. We discussed it and since he is still closeted in res and and, and I don’t know what is going to happen after December, we decided to be friends. Though I am allowed to hold his hand, under the table, at mystics…

So yes, im still single and jobless and well, lets face it, horny (thesis writing increases testosterone levels…), but I’m making awesome friends.

Just a quick followup past. Short and sweet….

Mr. Green is in a relationship. Thou I don’t think that he would have gone for me anyway.

I gave up on Significant even before I started and TheJew (will tell you about him later, good friend) kinda took over and also gave up.

LOUD, is still loud and proud, and since we are both very honest and straight to the point people we agreed that he is not into me and are becoming really good friends.

Nu’Guy is also seeing someone for the last 2 weeks. It’s kinda weird since the guy he is seeing had a Long term/distance relationship just 3 weeks ago with a guy in america.

But alas, I do have a date tonight with The Piano Man. More info if this works out.

Im not stopping to think, it leads thoughts…

Soon I promise…